Category: Childbirth

Doulas For All Needs Your Help!

By justine, June 10, 2010 12:14 pm

We want to hold a fact-gathering + opinion-generating meeting with area doulas, birth advocates, and maternity care-providers to help build our organization into something that will benefit families in the ways that really matter! So, put your thinking caps on and plan to join us on June 29th @6pm at the Millcreek Mall Borders! Our website exists (but has no content yet!) at DoulasForAll.org and you can always email me at Justine@DoulasForAll.org for info or questions about this project. We also have a new phone number: 661-DOULAS-1

Birth: It’s Positive + ICAN of Erie

By justine, April 8, 2010 2:00 pm

Away We Go With Parenting!

By justine, March 16, 2010 1:16 am
Lazlo is a happy baby. What's my secret?

"Your baby is so content! What is your secret?"

Parenting can bring out some pretty big emotions. Nothing kicks off a debate between adults quicker than the implication that YOUR/THEIR parenting philosophies might be half-baked…or wrong…or questionably legal…or safe. Say one of these words loudly at the mall, at your next family reunion, or at the office get-together: Circumcision. Co-sleeping. Breastfeeding. Spanking. Childbirth. These simple words can evoke so many different feelings depending on who you are talking to: Guilt. Pride. Jealousy. Regret. Joy.

But the feelings that I am trying to cultivate more in myself are: Empathy and Humility.

I recently watched the film Away We Go. Let me say first: I really loved it. Let me say secondly: I only knew the bare minimum about it, I had not read reviews or viewed any trailers for it. And finally, let me say: the scene about AP values really stung when I first saw it. Here is a clip from that scene. And another. Go ahead and watch them if you have not seen the film. Here is the trailer if you want to get an overview of the whole thing. I’ll wait.

The film depicted several families and several different parenting styles. There was the disrespectful family who seemed to believe that their children were deaf and dumb. There was the super-crunchy AP family. There was the open-arms adopt-a-lot-of-kids rainbow family. The single-parent family. It was very easy for Sir Hubby and I to scoff, guffaw, and feel superior when the disrespectful family was on the screen. What kind of jerks treat their kids like that! But there was an awkward silence in the room when the AP value family came on. Mostly it was quiet because Sir Hubby had fallen asleep. But also, because I could easily identify ALL of our AP values being depicted by these characters. At first, a sort of pride welled up in me…

Hooray for AP values being shown in a movie! Extended breastfeeding! Babywearing! Family bed! Doula’s! Yippeeee!

But then I realized that the film was not praising those choices, but depicting them as kinda crazy. Kinda over-the-top. Kinda awful. The pregnant couple shouts at the AP family, calls them horrible names, and finally flees the house.

Whoa. I start warming my fingers up to draft a strongly worded letter to the writers:

How dare you! Babywearing this! Family bed that! Baby-led breastfeeding this! Don’t you know that studies have shown that AP…

Wait a minute. THIS is what the writers of the film were making fun of! The passionately snobby caricature of AP parents. They were showing how non-AP parents are meant to feel when smug-AP parents berate them or humiliate them or shame them for not being superior enough to make the choice to AP immediately and instinctively. And maybe we don’t do it on purpose…but whenever we proclaim that our way is the best way– the ONLY way– if you want healthy kids, happy kids,  gentle kids, smart kids, compassionate kids, then we have not turned someone on to AP…we have chased them away. They are fleeing the house just like the couple in the movie did. Continue reading 'Away We Go With Parenting!'»

Home Birth In The Newspaper!

By justine, January 26, 2010 12:05 am
Erie Times Announcement

Erie Times Announcement

I am sure that it would come as no surprise to anyone to hear that our family doesn’t usually read the newspaper. Reading the news online just seems so much easier these days. It is greener. No stacks of newspapers to store until recycling day. I can choose what kinds of news (regional, national, international, politics, health…) I want to read and just skip over the stuff that doesn’t interest me (sports, comics, obituaries…) So why would  we care about going through all of the steps to make sure that our birth was listed in the newspaper?

Well, frankly, let me just say that I am a bit ashamed that we don’t read the newspaper. I think that our children could probably benefit from seeing us reading it and become inspired to read it themselves. Finding creative ways to reuse the newspaper seems like something our kiddos would be into as well…we  just saw a PBS special in which grade school kids made a fairly complex engineering project with newspapers and masking tape. Not to mention the glass cleaning properties or using it to stuff into wet boots in the winter. But I digress. Continue reading 'Home Birth In The Newspaper!'»

Practice Positive Discipline & Strive for Balance in Personal and Family Life

By justine, January 16, 2010 9:29 pm

Following the Principles: Parts 7 & 8 in a series of 8

Baby Lazlo~ 1/6/10 ~ 11lbs~  23"long ~ Born Safely at Home!

Baby Lazlo~ 1/6/10 ~ 11lbs~ 23"long ~ Born Safely at Home!

Now that we have finally welcomed our newest addition— an 11lb son named Lazlo who was born safely at our home — I can take the time to sit down and write again. The swelling and the restlessness of late pregnancy made computer time just one more form of torture in a sea of physical discomforts. Fortunately, those discomforts are behind me now (although I vow to never, ever forget the challenges of the third trimester, just in case I am ever stricken with Baby Fever again years from now) and my recovery has been a joyous time of healing, snuggling, nursing and marveling. Well…for the most part.

Our first tandem nursing session a few minutes after Lazlo's birth.

Our first tandem nursing session a few minutes after Lazlo's birth.

There, of course, is my sweet little 22-month-old T-Bird to deal with. While she is thrilled that there is breastmilk on the menu again, she is not as enthusiastic about her new little brother trying to enjoy that milk–with or without her. Nursing them together is a terrific way to get a worry-free 20-minute power-nap, but can also backfire and result in T-Bird’s numerous attempts to unlatch the baby, to poke him the eye, to cover his face with a blanket, to elbow him… fun times. So then, I will go with the other extreme and nurse T-Bird first, or nurse her in another room, or nurse her after I get Lazlo to sleep. She then proceeds to spend that time constantly unlatching and relatching asking “Where’s Lazlo? Baby wants nursie?” while pulling, scratching and patting the unoccupied breast…more fun times. Not to mention the all-new behaviors when we are not nursing—throwing, hitting, screeching, drawing on walls, stomping food into the carpets. Continue reading 'Practice Positive Discipline & Strive for Balance in Personal and Family Life'»

Lazlo’s Birth

By justine, January 12, 2010 10:08 pm

Sir Hubby helps me to relax using our Hypnobabies techniques...

Sir Hubby helps me to relax using our Hypnobabies techniques...

Jill & Sir Hubby check on Lazlo with the Doppler. He is such a strong, healthy boy and has perfect heart tones the entire time!

Jill & Sir Hubby check on Lazlo with the Doppler. He is such a strong, healthy boy and has perfect heart tones the entire time!

They have to get really, really low to find good heart tones since the baby is so close to being on the outside!

They have to get really, really low to find good heart tones since the baby is so close to being on the outside!

THIS moment would have never been possible without the love, faith, and unwavering belief of my birth team. They never doubted me for a minute...even when I was convinced I couldn't do it! Jill, Lynn and Sir Hubby are the reason Lazlo was born safely, gently and at home!

THIS moment would have never been possible without the love, faith, and unwavering belief of my birth team. They never doubted me for a minute...even when I was convinced I couldn't do it!

T-Bird is very ready to be reacquainted with her favorite na-na's while Sir Hubby meets his brand new son.

T-Bird is very ready to be reacquainted with her favorite na-na's while Sir Hubby meets his brand new son.

T-Bird is very ready to be reacquainted with her favorite na-na's while Sir Hubby meets his brand new son.

I have the feeling that this is going to be a fairly common sight around our house for some time to come ♥

Top Ten Things That Should Have Tipped Me Off to the Fact That I Was Pregnant, But Didn’t Because I Am Kinda Slow.

By justine, April 30, 2009 11:32 am

1. Exhaustion. More than the usual level of fatigue that I have become accustomed to as a momma to a busy toddler.2. Overpowering cravings for my father’s homemade venison jerky (I’m a vegetarian)

3. T-Bird becoming a non-stop nurser. I thought this was what was contributing to the sore breasts, but in fact it looks as if they might be its very own symptom. My milk probably taste different or is less bountiful than usual, so she is trying to make up for it. If I were paying any attention, I would have realized that my supply should have caught up with her new schedule after a few days, but I just let it go on for more than 2 months without thinking about it at all. Continue reading 'Top Ten Things That Should Have Tipped Me Off to the Fact That I Was Pregnant, But Didn’t Because I Am Kinda Slow.'»

My VBAC Homebirth

By justine, March 15, 2008 11:59 am

Baby T-Bird 2008

Thursday March 13th Our Due Date: I woke up in a total funk today. Nobody knows more than I do that due dates are suggestions, not rules. Intellectually I can accept this today. Emotionally, however, this realization sends me over the edge. I did everything right. I ate right. I gained the right amount of weight. I went to all of my prenatal appointments. I took the right vitamins. I believe the right things about birth and babies and parenting. I want to be rewarded for doing things right, dammit. That IS how it works here in America, right? (okay that might be a bit facetious, sorry) I decide to spend the entire day pouting and wallowing in self pity since no one could possibly feel as sorry for me as I feel for me. My cankles are huge. My feet hurt when I bear weight on them. My hands swell when I…well, when I do absolutely anything. This child’s head is literally taking up every bit of available space in my pelvis which leaves room for about ½ teaspoon of pee. The biggest of my big maternity clothes no longer have the capacity to expand over the belly. I have become some monstrous caricature of a pregnant woman: a barefoot, swollen, waddling, nearly naked, puffy faced, screeching like some crazy Medusa-headed Harpe, who will never, ever, ever, go into labor. I will be pregnant forever– or at least long enough to make the skin on my feet explode while they wheel me into the OR for the miracle of my MRSA infested surgical birth. Then I will finally have the c-section which everyone will console me about while not so secretly scolding me for selfishly thinking that I had what it might take to pull off an empowering, healing, society-defying homebirth. Childbirth sucks for a reason, right? How dare I be arrogant enough to think that I could escape what our society has planned for me? Continue reading 'My VBAC Homebirth'»

Doula Services

By justine, January 2, 2008 11:40 am

Information About Doula Services

Doula’s around the country are working hard to offer medical insurance reimbursements to families just like you. But until then, every expectant family deserves a doula and I will work with you to make my services affordable for your unique situation. Fees for my doula services are provided to each family on an individual basis. I offer a sliding fee scale and flexible payment plans to make doula services a reality for every family and every financial situation. Please contact me today to discuss how I can assist you in making your pregnancy and childbirthing expereince the most enjoyable and memorable time of your life.

Women have been giving birth since the beginning of time– but those times have now changed and many women give birth without having witnessed the childbirthing experiences of their own mothers, aunts, sisters and community members. We are now seeing that women truly need extra support through this transformative time. A doula is there to help.A doula is an advocate for the birthing mom and her partner. Whether you want a birth in hospital with or without drugs or or interventions–whether you want to birth at home with a midwife or other trained attendant–your doula is there to help you feel involved, safe, and empowered.The doula is not there to replace the birthing mom’s husband or the loved one she has chosen to be with her. The doula is there to provide objective nurturing support & education, to make suggestions about comfort measures & positions, keep mom hydrated & focused, provide breaks for the other members of the birth team, and to be the gatekeeper between mom and the outside world. The doula is there to help make birthing easier.

When parents choose to birth in a hospital, a doula can provide comfort and support in the home long before it is time to head to the hospital. Often, parents wonder if “this is really labor?” or “is it time to go to the hospital?” A doula is trained to recognize the signs and stages of labor through close observation of the mother. Parents tend to be more relaxed in their own home and labor may progress more gently & quickly. Plus, If mom is already in active labor (4-5 cms) when she arrives at the hospital, there is less chance for the use of labor inducing or labor augmenting drugs or procedures (like Pitocin, Cervidil, and Artificial Rupture of Membranes). During your time at the hospital, a doula can help you to understand any procedures or complications that you may run into and help you communicate with your care provider.

Consultation: Determine if a doula is right for you. This can be via phone, email or in person. there is no charge or obligation for your initial consultation. Call 814-558-6068 or email me at Justine@JulianARTS.comThis e-mail address is being protected from spambots, you need JavaScript enabled to view it to make arrangements.

Home Visits: Build rapport, discuss your health & pregnancy history, create ideal birth plan, determine needs and address concerns. Relaxation, breathing and comfort techniques. Belly casting and/or belly henna painting. Pregnancy photography is also available.

Care Provider Visit Meet with your care provider, share birth plan, follow up on expectations and concerns of labor and birth, review health history with care provider. Become familiar with care provider and his/her policies.

Labor Support: Early labor and family support at your home, accompany to hospital if not birthing at home, birth plan support, continuous encouragement & guidance during labor and through entire birthing process. Early breastfeeding and bonding support. Photography and video taping are available.

Postpartum Visits: Review of the birth at your home. Can include a wide variety of services, including breastfeeding support, house cleaning, laundry, shopping, errands, older child care, scrapbooking, mailing birth announcements, yoga, etc…New parents need to enjoy their new baby and rest!

The Benefits of Doulas Having a doula attend your hospital birth has been proven to reduce:

  1. Episiotomies
  2. Cesareans by 50%
  3. Shorter Labor by 25%
  4. Epidural Requests by 60%
  5. Oxytocin use by 40%
  6. Analgesia use by 30%
  7. Reduction of forceps by 40%

Benefits of Labor Support to the Mother:

  • Increases positive feelings about labor
  • Decreases intervention
  • Decreases need for medication
  • Increases acceptance of the baby
  • Enhances maternal/infant bonding
  • Decreases neonatal complications
  • Decreases anxiety and tension
  • Shortens labor
  • Increases other’s feelings of self-esteem
  • Increases feelings of control
  • Increases mother’s cooperation and participation
  • Decreases postpartum depression
  • The Unique Role of a Doula

    I recognize childbirth as a transformative life experience. On your birthing day, not only is your baby being welcomed into the world, you and your partner are simultaneously being transformed into parents. There is no other single day in our lives when we are asked to do, be, and experience so many things. Protecting the sacredness of this event is my priority.

    As I see it, the role of a doula is to mother the mother.  As our society has grown and progressed, many advances in science and medicine have made it possible to save lives that might have been lost a hundred years ago. But with those advances, we have lost the trust in our bodies and trust in the process of birth. Experts agree that interventions can help, but they are grossly overused and unnecessary in the majority of childbirth experiences. Birth has become filled with fear and misinformation. Doula’s support the joy of birth by eliminating the fear and myths.

    A birth doula helps families come as close as they can to having the kind of birth they desire. To be successful parents, they need to come away from the birthing experience with the best possible feelings about themselves and their capabilities. I work to educate mothers and their partners about childbirth, to help mediate the stress and discomfort that can be associated with pregnancy, and to provide physical and emotional support throughout the entire childbirth process. I can offer suggestions on comfort measures, pain relief, positions, movement, breathing and relaxation that will provide the optimal experience for you and your baby.

    While the outcome of labor and birth can be unpredictable, the care you receive during your labor should never be. Doula’s work alongside physicians, midwives, nurses, and birth partners, but do not replace any of these important birth team participants. As a doula, I will assist women giving birth in hospitals, birth centers and at home. As your doula, I am YOUR assistant. I am employed by you, and therefore I have your desires, hopes, and best interest in mind. I hope to provide constant, nurturing, helpful and objective support as well as first-hand knowledge and understanding of what you, the laboring mother, is going through.

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