Category: Pregnancy

Away We Go With Parenting!

By justine, March 16, 2010 1:16 am
Lazlo is a happy baby. What's my secret?

"Your baby is so content! What is your secret?"

Parenting can bring out some pretty big emotions. Nothing kicks off a debate between adults quicker than the implication that YOUR/THEIR parenting philosophies might be half-baked…or wrong…or questionably legal…or safe. Say one of these words loudly at the mall, at your next family reunion, or at the office get-together: Circumcision. Co-sleeping. Breastfeeding. Spanking. Childbirth. These simple words can evoke so many different feelings depending on who you are talking to: Guilt. Pride. Jealousy. Regret. Joy.

But the feelings that I am trying to cultivate more in myself are: Empathy and Humility.

I recently watched the film Away We Go. Let me say first: I really loved it. Let me say secondly: I only knew the bare minimum about it, I had not read reviews or viewed any trailers for it. And finally, let me say: the scene about AP values really stung when I first saw it. Here is a clip from that scene. And another. Go ahead and watch them if you have not seen the film. Here is the trailer if you want to get an overview of the whole thing. I’ll wait.

The film depicted several families and several different parenting styles. There was the disrespectful family who seemed to believe that their children were deaf and dumb. There was the super-crunchy AP family. There was the open-arms adopt-a-lot-of-kids rainbow family. The single-parent family. It was very easy for Sir Hubby and I to scoff, guffaw, and feel superior when the disrespectful family was on the screen. What kind of jerks treat their kids like that! But there was an awkward silence in the room when the AP value family came on. Mostly it was quiet because Sir Hubby had fallen asleep. But also, because I could easily identify ALL of our AP values being depicted by these characters. At first, a sort of pride welled up in me…

Hooray for AP values being shown in a movie! Extended breastfeeding! Babywearing! Family bed! Doula’s! Yippeeee!

But then I realized that the film was not praising those choices, but depicting them as kinda crazy. Kinda over-the-top. Kinda awful. The pregnant couple shouts at the AP family, calls them horrible names, and finally flees the house.

Whoa. I start warming my fingers up to draft a strongly worded letter to the writers:

How dare you! Babywearing this! Family bed that! Baby-led breastfeeding this! Don’t you know that studies have shown that AP…

Wait a minute. THIS is what the writers of the film were making fun of! The passionately snobby caricature of AP parents. They were showing how non-AP parents are meant to feel when smug-AP parents berate them or humiliate them or shame them for not being superior enough to make the choice to AP immediately and instinctively. And maybe we don’t do it on purpose…but whenever we proclaim that our way is the best way– the ONLY way– if you want healthy kids, happy kids,  gentle kids, smart kids, compassionate kids, then we have not turned someone on to AP…we have chased them away. They are fleeing the house just like the couple in the movie did. Continue reading 'Away We Go With Parenting!'»

Home Birth In The Newspaper!

By justine, January 26, 2010 12:05 am
Erie Times Announcement

Erie Times Announcement

I am sure that it would come as no surprise to anyone to hear that our family doesn’t usually read the newspaper. Reading the news online just seems so much easier these days. It is greener. No stacks of newspapers to store until recycling day. I can choose what kinds of news (regional, national, international, politics, health…) I want to read and just skip over the stuff that doesn’t interest me (sports, comics, obituaries…) So why would  we care about going through all of the steps to make sure that our birth was listed in the newspaper?

Well, frankly, let me just say that I am a bit ashamed that we don’t read the newspaper. I think that our children could probably benefit from seeing us reading it and become inspired to read it themselves. Finding creative ways to reuse the newspaper seems like something our kiddos would be into as well…we  just saw a PBS special in which grade school kids made a fairly complex engineering project with newspapers and masking tape. Not to mention the glass cleaning properties or using it to stuff into wet boots in the winter. But I digress. Continue reading 'Home Birth In The Newspaper!'»

Lazlo’s Birth

By justine, January 12, 2010 10:08 pm

Sir Hubby helps me to relax using our Hypnobabies techniques...

Sir Hubby helps me to relax using our Hypnobabies techniques...

Jill & Sir Hubby check on Lazlo with the Doppler. He is such a strong, healthy boy and has perfect heart tones the entire time!

Jill & Sir Hubby check on Lazlo with the Doppler. He is such a strong, healthy boy and has perfect heart tones the entire time!

They have to get really, really low to find good heart tones since the baby is so close to being on the outside!

They have to get really, really low to find good heart tones since the baby is so close to being on the outside!

THIS moment would have never been possible without the love, faith, and unwavering belief of my birth team. They never doubted me for a minute...even when I was convinced I couldn't do it! Jill, Lynn and Sir Hubby are the reason Lazlo was born safely, gently and at home!

THIS moment would have never been possible without the love, faith, and unwavering belief of my birth team. They never doubted me for a minute...even when I was convinced I couldn't do it!

T-Bird is very ready to be reacquainted with her favorite na-na's while Sir Hubby meets his brand new son.

T-Bird is very ready to be reacquainted with her favorite na-na's while Sir Hubby meets his brand new son.

T-Bird is very ready to be reacquainted with her favorite na-na's while Sir Hubby meets his brand new son.

I have the feeling that this is going to be a fairly common sight around our house for some time to come ♥

Responding With Sensitivity

By justine, September 1, 2009 3:02 pm

Principle Number Three: Respond With Sensitivity. It seemed as if the universe was not willing to allow me to get this post completed on time. With strong opinions firmly in hand, I have sat down a dozen times to write this post…and nothing. Sure I have some drafts…some ramblings about babies, and how this pregnancy has confirmed and reinforced my feelings. But they all lacked a real story. But now, I see the reason behind these delays. It seems as if the universe wanted to show me a deeper and broader truth about treating the most vulnerable members of our society with dignity, respect and sensitivity. Continue reading 'Responding With Sensitivity'»

Breastfeeding While Pregnant

By justine, August 21, 2009 6:53 pm

Principle Number 2: Feed With Love and Respect

Long before I knew I was pregnant with LF#5 (Loin Fruit Number Five), I’m pretty sure that T-Bird knew something was different. We had just moved into a new home, in a new city, and I figured T-Bird was seriously ramping up her nursing efforts in order to establish some of the security she was missing. Surely, it would pass soon enough. Then I assumed I had come down with the flu—crippling fatigue and all day nausea. T-Bird needed to nurse more to receive those healthy immunities. Surely, it would pass soon enough. Sir Hubby was at work more and more growing the business we had moved to a new city to support. T-Bird wanted to comfort nurse because she missed her daddy, or sensed the added stress I was under when he was away so much. Surely, it would pass soon enough.

It hasn’t passed. Continue reading 'Breastfeeding While Pregnant'»

Unexpected Pregnancy

By justine, June 15, 2009 6:50 pm

Principle Number One: Prepare for Pregnancy, Birth and Parenting

“Look at this,” I mumble out of the corner of my mouth as I shove the white and purple plastic stick in Sir Hubby’s direction. The two younger kids are nearby and it is too soon to clue them in yet.

“Uh. What exactly am I looking at?” he replies, his tone already rising an octave. He senses danger.

“C’mon. Really?” I hiss. I know he has seen a pregnancy test before.

“No, no. I know what it is. I just don’t know what it says,” he confesses.

It says oops.”

And so begins our journey towards meeting Loin Fruit Number Five, or LF#5 as we like to call the little critter. Of course our LF#5 is loved and wanted. LF#5 simply has shown up in our lives about three years too early for me and has forced me to confront some of my personal issues about responsibility and control. Our youngest, T-Bird, just turned one in March of this year…likely around the same time her little-sibling-to-be was undergoing some rapid cell division. This was, of course, right before I suddenly came down with a “mysterious flu-like illness” no one else seemed to have, which didn’t go away for about two months. Well, it hasn’t gone away even now that it is the middle of June. But at least now I know that I am not battling the flu. Continue reading 'Unexpected Pregnancy'»

Doula Services

By justine, January 2, 2008 11:40 am

Information About Doula Services

Doula’s around the country are working hard to offer medical insurance reimbursements to families just like you. But until then, every expectant family deserves a doula and I will work with you to make my services affordable for your unique situation. Fees for my doula services are provided to each family on an individual basis. I offer a sliding fee scale and flexible payment plans to make doula services a reality for every family and every financial situation. Please contact me today to discuss how I can assist you in making your pregnancy and childbirthing expereince the most enjoyable and memorable time of your life.

Women have been giving birth since the beginning of time– but those times have now changed and many women give birth without having witnessed the childbirthing experiences of their own mothers, aunts, sisters and community members. We are now seeing that women truly need extra support through this transformative time. A doula is there to help.A doula is an advocate for the birthing mom and her partner. Whether you want a birth in hospital with or without drugs or or interventions–whether you want to birth at home with a midwife or other trained attendant–your doula is there to help you feel involved, safe, and empowered.The doula is not there to replace the birthing mom’s husband or the loved one she has chosen to be with her. The doula is there to provide objective nurturing support & education, to make suggestions about comfort measures & positions, keep mom hydrated & focused, provide breaks for the other members of the birth team, and to be the gatekeeper between mom and the outside world. The doula is there to help make birthing easier.

When parents choose to birth in a hospital, a doula can provide comfort and support in the home long before it is time to head to the hospital. Often, parents wonder if “this is really labor?” or “is it time to go to the hospital?” A doula is trained to recognize the signs and stages of labor through close observation of the mother. Parents tend to be more relaxed in their own home and labor may progress more gently & quickly. Plus, If mom is already in active labor (4-5 cms) when she arrives at the hospital, there is less chance for the use of labor inducing or labor augmenting drugs or procedures (like Pitocin, Cervidil, and Artificial Rupture of Membranes). During your time at the hospital, a doula can help you to understand any procedures or complications that you may run into and help you communicate with your care provider.

Consultation: Determine if a doula is right for you. This can be via phone, email or in person. there is no charge or obligation for your initial consultation. Call 814-558-6068 or email me at Justine@JulianARTS.comThis e-mail address is being protected from spambots, you need JavaScript enabled to view it to make arrangements.

Home Visits: Build rapport, discuss your health & pregnancy history, create ideal birth plan, determine needs and address concerns. Relaxation, breathing and comfort techniques. Belly casting and/or belly henna painting. Pregnancy photography is also available.

Care Provider Visit Meet with your care provider, share birth plan, follow up on expectations and concerns of labor and birth, review health history with care provider. Become familiar with care provider and his/her policies.

Labor Support: Early labor and family support at your home, accompany to hospital if not birthing at home, birth plan support, continuous encouragement & guidance during labor and through entire birthing process. Early breastfeeding and bonding support. Photography and video taping are available.

Postpartum Visits: Review of the birth at your home. Can include a wide variety of services, including breastfeeding support, house cleaning, laundry, shopping, errands, older child care, scrapbooking, mailing birth announcements, yoga, etc…New parents need to enjoy their new baby and rest!

The Benefits of Doulas Having a doula attend your hospital birth has been proven to reduce:

  1. Episiotomies
  2. Cesareans by 50%
  3. Shorter Labor by 25%
  4. Epidural Requests by 60%
  5. Oxytocin use by 40%
  6. Analgesia use by 30%
  7. Reduction of forceps by 40%

Benefits of Labor Support to the Mother:

  • Increases positive feelings about labor
  • Decreases intervention
  • Decreases need for medication
  • Increases acceptance of the baby
  • Enhances maternal/infant bonding
  • Decreases neonatal complications
  • Decreases anxiety and tension
  • Shortens labor
  • Increases other’s feelings of self-esteem
  • Increases feelings of control
  • Increases mother’s cooperation and participation
  • Decreases postpartum depression
  • The Unique Role of a Doula

    I recognize childbirth as a transformative life experience. On your birthing day, not only is your baby being welcomed into the world, you and your partner are simultaneously being transformed into parents. There is no other single day in our lives when we are asked to do, be, and experience so many things. Protecting the sacredness of this event is my priority.

    As I see it, the role of a doula is to mother the mother.  As our society has grown and progressed, many advances in science and medicine have made it possible to save lives that might have been lost a hundred years ago. But with those advances, we have lost the trust in our bodies and trust in the process of birth. Experts agree that interventions can help, but they are grossly overused and unnecessary in the majority of childbirth experiences. Birth has become filled with fear and misinformation. Doula’s support the joy of birth by eliminating the fear and myths.

    A birth doula helps families come as close as they can to having the kind of birth they desire. To be successful parents, they need to come away from the birthing experience with the best possible feelings about themselves and their capabilities. I work to educate mothers and their partners about childbirth, to help mediate the stress and discomfort that can be associated with pregnancy, and to provide physical and emotional support throughout the entire childbirth process. I can offer suggestions on comfort measures, pain relief, positions, movement, breathing and relaxation that will provide the optimal experience for you and your baby.

    While the outcome of labor and birth can be unpredictable, the care you receive during your labor should never be. Doula’s work alongside physicians, midwives, nurses, and birth partners, but do not replace any of these important birth team participants. As a doula, I will assist women giving birth in hospitals, birth centers and at home. As your doula, I am YOUR assistant. I am employed by you, and therefore I have your desires, hopes, and best interest in mind. I hope to provide constant, nurturing, helpful and objective support as well as first-hand knowledge and understanding of what you, the laboring mother, is going through.

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